It’s funny how after a series of serendipities and now I’m studying Communications. Perhaps I’m just weird, but certain theories I’ve learnt sounds extremely philosophical to me; plus, it suddenly dawned upon me that I’ve really been applying them unconsciously in my life.
The basic idea behind his theory is similar to the adage ‘everything is showbiz’; and that communication is essentially a performance. Then, of course, it goes deeper into technicalities such as Face and maintaining face, Line, Rituals, Footing etc.
Well, there is a reason why I’m bringing Goffman up.
David’s going to be coming over to Brisbane in less than 24 hours time, and as weird as I might sound, I’m actually unsure about what ought to be my footing when it comes to communicating with David.
It’s kinda similar to asking, ‘What is the performance I want to put on?’ And to take it one step deeper, ‘What actually is the face that I’m trying to present and will be trying to maintain?’
Honestly, not trying to be fake here, but I do find myself lost in these instances. In films, it’s common to see those really cool protagonist doing their own things, being themselves and ever charming the people around them; to be shamelessly honest, I do aspire to be like them.
But really, do they not struggle with self identity at all? Am I really THAT weird to be constantly thinking about how I ought to prepare myself to face the world? But if I’m the only one, how did Goffman actually came up with this theory then?
To avoid extraneous details, the truth is that, I’m not even sure about the 5Wives and 1Husband of me, so becoming my ideal protagonist is still an extremely far fetched dream…
Well, I guess I can’t worry too much. After all, I can’t point a remote control at him and tune his thoughts towards the favorable channel. So, I guess I’ll recalibrate my footing again tomorrow when I see him.
Despite all, can’t wait!! (: